You CaN get with ThiS, or YoU can Get with ThaT

**Wait, Wait!! I wasn't ready :-) **


Hello lovelies!

It's been some time I know. I've definitely missed the input..
In sweet home Chicago, we've been blessed with snow, frigid temperatures, and beloved black ice. Cars have slid on freshly snowed streets, bumping and side swiping other cars, and people have slipped and fell in the most embarrassing of fashions while trying to cross the slush filled streets. The most deadly of the Chicago Winter is The Hawk. Affectionately named so by the good people of Chicago, The Hawk or Windy (refer to Kanye West's "Homecoming") has made even the strongest of men weak at the knees. Many tears have fallen and many lives have been treated by the affects of The Hawk. But good ol Windy not only blows wintry wind, but also it seems, people.

Now... awhile ago, I made a promise to a certain best friend that I would no longer continue to allow people to walk in and out of my life. That if they weren't standing on the front lines with me now, then I didn't want to have anything to do with them. I'm a firm believer in the saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me"

But the fact of the matter is, that's not always easy. It Especially depends on how deep your feelings are for this particular someone. Now we all know this does not just apply to male/female relationships, but also friendships. I KNOW some of yall have that one "friend" that keeps receiving the low key *side eye* from you, but you love them to death and always over look the things about them that continue to blow you. It can be tiring and mentally and emotionally draining forgiving, forgetting, moving on, and then getting let down again.

So what do you do? Well, you have two options.. You entertain what the person has to say and forgive, and move on with the hopes that things get better and change, or you can choose to remove this person from your life completely. The choice is always there, it's just what we choose to do with the information.

Today's Confessions

• I confess that sometimes I fall victim to the "dryer" affect
• I confess that somebody will stay, and somebody will go
• I confess that a dress with feathers may not have been the best way to go lol :-)

So how do you know who to let back in and who to keep out? Make your list and check it twice honey. But always know there's the possibility of things biting you in the ass. You never know what will happen. But sometimes, not knowing is half the fun :-)

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

But TWITTER said...

This.. Is part 2

Hello again Lovelies,
I know what your thinking.. This bish JUST posted a blog. I'm aware of that. But there is a story that goes along with the EX blog. This post is dedicated to........

INTERNET BEEF!!!

We've all had it.. Some people may be involving themselves in some sort of internet beef now. No matter what the reason, internet beef is wack BOOTZ!.

Let's explore...
Now a days, the nosiest of nosies can check in and know all about your personal business because of what you choose to post up on the net. At one time, everybody had a Black Planet page. Then on to the more evolved Myspace, up to Facebook, and now Twitter. At one time you had to be a college student with a valid college email address in order to sign up for Facebook. Now everybody's grandma, mama, and Bible study teacher has a Facebook. Nobody really bothers with Myspace anymore, and dont even think about coming at someone on a Black Planet page. Twitter is one of the best and worst internet creations in years. If gives fun, energetic, and smart individuales the means to constantly update whats going on in there minds, lives, and hearts in a creative way. BUT. It also gives a chance for the ignorant to spread there stupidity at a rapid rate.
Twitter beef. Is. Wack!
Have I said that enough times? Anyway, my EX decides to check in on my life via Twitter and this here blog. Which is fine and dandy, but when you search for things, you find them. In the words of Adam Lambert, I am not a babysitter. I refuse to say things that everybody will like. Before a Bish knew it, the EX was at my head via a Subliminal Tweet.
WTF!
The always obvious, but hardly funny subliminal tweet is always the jumping off point for an official twitter beef. So what's a person to do?
Well.... You can take the high road and chose to ignore such foolishness. BUT that has the potential for making you feel tried and that's NEVER a good feeling.
Or.. you can continue with the circus and sling your own nameless mud (like I did).... (I HATE feeling tried).... (Dont JUDGE me..) I'll admit lovelies.. I got involved and began subliminally tweeting. It wasnt until his new girlfriend jumped in and called me every type of Bitch in the book that I realized, I was arguing with FOOLS... And what's worse, people looking in on my tweets, were talking about how foolish I looked.. I had to stop. Blocks were made, BBM pins were deleted and number's were removed. It may seem fun to be able to say what you feel and not attatch a name but in the end, you wind up looking silly, and extra MADD

More of Today's Confessions:

• I confess that I felt so foolish with those subliminal messages
• I confess that it's just not worth a second thought
• I confess that I need to go back to '07 ♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥ mentality

Yes darlings.. Interenet beef is so desperate looking. And Tweet Beef...? Even worse. It may look fun to air out somebody's business without attatching a name, but remember. Subliminal messages are a way of throwing rocks and hiding your hands. So not the 2010 move.

On to the N"ex"T One

Bienvenidos Lovelies!

As I sit here and sip my hot chocolate and scarf down my leftover Giordano's pizza, I reflected upon last week and all the drama that surrounded my Twitter life.

No Wait...
That sounds soooo lame.. I know. It's lame to me too.
I had EX boyfriend drama (cue scary music). Was I really naive enough to think that just because I turned a year older the people in my life would behave accordingly?
Let me take it back a few weeks. So you can get the idea of today's blog..
I've been casually dating other people since said EX.. But every new guy that would come along, would spark thoughts about the EX. While discussing this with the Bestie and fellow fashionista, she posed a question that made me take a hard look at all my past relationships and "B.U.D.D.Y's"..

What is it about a New boo, that makes you think about the Old one?

Soo annoying right? We've all been there... Things could be going more than great with a new potential boyfriend or girlfriend. But when you least expect it, your EX can cross your mind and invade your thoughts. It's irritating, and annoying, and just inconvenient.
So what do you do?
Well.. Depends on what these thoughts are. If you find yourself excessively thinking about your EX and there is a potential for reconciliation, then jump into it and get your man/woman back. Putting yourself out there is scary, but coulda woulda shoulda's are SO 2000 and LATE! But if you think back on your EX and it's nothing but arguments, tears, and heartbreak (like in my case ::cough::) the only thing you can really do, is remind yourself why it is that you broke up in the first place. Thinking about all the negatives about a situation, while may be depressing, can help with the those "missing you" feelings and get you focused and thankful for what you have, or whats to come in the future.

Today's Confessions:

• I confess that I really really missed my ex..
• I confess that Now I realize, I don't miss my ex
• I confess that I refuse to continue running in circles

But kiddies, I didn't just come to that conclusion, trust me. It took days of soul searching, and a particular Twitter beef to realize that I'm better off without them problems. And if in case your on the road to recovery and find yourself slipping, just remember there's ALWAYS a reason why ex's should stay ex's.

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days...

Hi Lovelies....

Have you seen the movie How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days?

When the movie came out in 2003, me and my Bestfriend saw it not once but 2 times (being thirsty) lol.. When I first saw it, I thought it was just a baseless comedy about 2 people that played games up until the end of the movie..

She (Andie Anderson, *played by Kate Hudson*) was a writer for a professional woman's magazine. And He (Benjamin Barry *played by Mat McConaughey*) Is an advertising executive nortorious around the office for being a ladies man. When one of Andie's friends goes through yet another devestating breakup, Andie decides to write an article on the things that woman do wrong. Her assignment is to find a new guy, wheel him in, then flip the switch on him and do all the classic things that women do wrong in a relationship. At the same time, in order to score a big account, Ben is dared to find a woman and make her fall in love with him in 10 days.. Long story short, they both eventually end up finding out that they are playing one another and that they really are in love with each other. And of course, they live happily ever after.

Now Wait Bish.....

I can guarantee you this almost NEVER happens in real life..

Not the playing games part, but the getting over it after you've done the playing or been played. We as humans play this game called life on an every day basis. There are so many different games to play when it comes to relationships. But are they all bad?

Lets explore shall we?

1) The "Defensive" Game- These are games we play with our significant others in order to protect our hearts from future heartbreak. Playing level: Possible Danger

2) The "Childish" Game- These are games that young people, or young minded people like to play. The break up every 3 days, calling private, spreading rumors, make you jealous kind of games. Playing level: Dangerous

3) The "Power Struggle" Game- These are games that you play when you want to have full control over relationships. I.E.. Constantly checking up, or checking in. Monitering outfits, friends, and family. Not only are these signes of abuse, there also mind games.

Speaking of which..

4) The "mind" Games- What can be thought of as the worst of the games to play with someone. Mind games are what we all are guilty of playing at some point or another. Those on the receiving end of a mind game have the potential to be left hurt, confused, angry, souless, and damaged. Playing Level: Very Dangerous

The Defensive game, isnt so much a bad thing, because everybody has been hurt at one point or another and you definatly dont want to feel that way again. But it also has the potential for danger because in your quest for protecting yourself, you could end up hurting someone that really loves you. The Childish game is just that. Childish. Nobody wants to put up with somebody who calls there phone private, and low key stalks them just because there shits not together. The Power game again has the potential to be lethal. I'm in no way saying that men are the only 1's who struggle to hold and maintain power in a relationship, because we as women do it too.. Just needed to throw that out there. Mind games just hurt. Period. I dunno about you all, but my heart and head battle each other on an every day basis. It sucks to know that while you chose your heart over your head, your head knew it was being toyed with.. And when you realize you've been played with, your mind WONT let you forget. SMH...

Todays Confessions:

1) I Confess thatI Drank waaaay to much this weekend :-(

2) I Confess that I was playing the defensive game, and ended up losing somebody beyond special to me. :-(

3) I confess that I fugged up.

Dont play games lovelies.. It's NEVER worth it. Because losing absolutely sucks!

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

Oh.My.Gaudy

Hello Lovelies! :-)

I had a date last night... With someone that I was interested in back in High School...

And by interested I mean had a HUGE crush on... He was my Mr. Everything back in the day... He was older, he had a car, he was working, dressed nicely....

*side bar* Back then (like it was so long ago) Dressed nicely was making sure you weren't perpetrating and mixing brands, your J's or 1's weren't dirty or leaning and your hair was neat*

Anyway.. He was pretty phenomenal.. In my eyes at least. So, he reached out on Facebook (::Le sigh::) And we decided to meet up for drinks. Conversation was going, and drinks were flowing. And it started off rather nicely. Until we got to that question that can Make or Break a perfectly wonderful date... "So, why are you single?"

SHIT

What are you suppose to say... "Well the last dude I was with was a total DEUSCH.. Well actually, all the dudes I've been with have been total deusches.."

No.

Or.. "Well.. I just haven't found anybody that's about to handle me being a strong, independent (not gonna lie, had to sing the song to spell that word..) woman who doesnt need anything from anybody. I can do shit on my OWN"

Ummm....No.

Or, you could just be honest.. "I have anger issues, I'm spoiled, I jump to conclusions, and I get jealous very easily"

Hmmmm....

We may have something here.. As I sat there listening to his.... umm "reasons"... for being single, and contemplated what I was going to say in turn, I thought about how easy life, and relationships would be, if we were honest about everything! And not just to other people, but to ourselves..

Interesting concept huh?

Now Wait.....

I know what your thinking, "I'm ALWAYS honest" Take a good look at yourself and really truly think about it.. Are you always honest? Essentially when we first meet and make the decision that we like someone, we sell ourselves.. When you go to the car dealership, they dont tell you all the negative things about the car.. They gloss over the negatives, and enhance the positives. That's what we do.. It's human and really nobodies judging. But maby, just maby if we were upfront about our scuffs, nicks, replacement doors and scratches that would save a lot of bs and breakdowns later on down the road.

Today's Confessions:

• I will confess this is not high school, and he is no longer Mr. Everything
• I will confess I'm not ready to jump back out there just yet..
• I will confess that the whole time I was on my date, I kept wishing it was someone else. (No shade though)

Well.. That's all the proverbial wisdom I have today.. Cant say much.. It would be like the blind leading the blind.. Wait, where are my Armani glasses, maby I'll be able to see a lil clearer :-)

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

These are My Confessions

Good morning Lovelies :-)






This is my first Confessions of a Fashionista blog!

I know what your thinking!


Now Wait... Is she a bandwagon hoe?? I mean EVERYBODY with a computer is blogging these days..



Nope! I have a fashion blog that constantly gets updated, but don't worry, no plugs here, these are two separate but equally important blogs.


Now, down to bidness... It is my absolute firm belief, that I am fabulous. I'm not being cocky, or full of myself. I just live the life that I deem fabulous. I shop (often) I go out (often) I have amazing friends, I travel, and I'm educated. But I'm also single! ( DUM DUM DUUUUUUUUUM) You would think that a nice gal from a good family, smart, stylish, well versed, and fun would be able to find somebody that would stick around.. But alas, in today's world, it's a whole new brand of 2009 guy out there....


Now Wait..... What does that even mean?


It means, you cant trust these new niggas over yonder. You know the guys I'm talking about.. The Spencer Pratt's and Justin Bobby's of the world.. You've seen em. You've dated em. Some of you are probably dating some right now. They are EVERYWHERE and there taking over! Watch out bish!





So what's a girl to do?


Who knows. This age old question is up there with the chicken and the egg. Do you meet someone at a club? At a bar? On Facebook? Blind date? It's all so..... exausting. At the end of the day, all anybody wants is that one person they can come home to and feel loved by. Is that so hard???


Ummm.. YES!




But it doesn't have to be. And there lies the question in todays blog.. Why does shit have to be so DAMN difficult? :: Le sigh::




Today's Confessions:

• I will confess that I got 3 hours of sleep last night. Tops.. Why? Cuz I let someone inturrupt my fabulousness with there foolishness. SMH





• I will confess that I have a tendency to go off when i'm not getting my way.. (sue me)





• I will confess that there is a time in every chicks life, where she will come to the realization that she Got GOT.





• I will confess... I got GOT! :-(
  

So how does one bounce back from getting got? Shit... I dont know, but when i find out. You'll be the first to know :-)

♥ Kisha_Fashionisha ♥