GaGa Ooo La LA

Ok Lovelies,

I have a confession to make. I have a girl crush.. I mean. A SERIOUS girl crush. On who you may ask? Well... none other than

LADY GAGA!!!!!!

This shit is real son. I am always in utter awe and amazement when I look at a photo, watch her perform, or hear her music. Now, I've had a few people ask me what it is about Gaga that i'm so crazy about..
Well..

The bish is weird as shit! But I love that! Her outfits are always outrageous and ballsy. She isn't afraid to push the envelope and be different. As a fellow fashionista I absolutely cant be mad at that. Instead of hating (like so many do) I definitely congratulate.

But..

I understand. A lot of people don't get it. And honestly, some are so close minded that they never will. But I do. And that's all that matters.

Now... On to the heart of this post. I don't just adore her fashion sense. But her lyrics always hit some typa nerve with me. Just Dance (her first single released in the US) didn't really do it for me and honestly, I thought that was going to be it for her. But then Poker Face came out and my whole idea of her changed. Such a clever way of saying that you were going to start playing the big boy games and play with a man's emotions. Love her. While i could listen to this song all day, her next two singles in my opinion will go down as my all time favorite. But people don't hear the same things that I hear, so I'm going to break down verses of my 2 all time favorite Lady Gaga songs, Paparazzi and Bad Romance.

Paparazzi

Lyrics:We are the crowd, we're c-coming out.

Got my flash on it's true.

Need that photo of you. It's so magical

We'd be so fantastical

* I realize I may not be the only one that likes you. So I'll stand and wait for you to come out with these other chicks. Hopefully I catch your attention because I think we would be great together.

Lyrics: I'm your biggest fan, I'll follow you until you love me.

Papa- Paparazzi

*I like you more than those other girls, I'll stick around all the time until you feel the same way. Know what your doing all the time like the paparazzi.

Lyrics: Baby there's no other superstar you know that I'll be

your papa -paparazzi

* There's nobody else on my radar, you're the only one that I want.

Lyrics: Promise I'll be kind. But I wont stop until that boy is mine.

Baby You'll be famous, chase you down until you love me.

* I promise I'll play fair, but I wont give up until you love me.

Bad Romance

Lyrics: I want your ugly, I want your disease

I want your everything as long as it's free

I want your Love

*Even though you might not look as good as some of the others, I still want you.

Lyrics: I want your love and I want your revenge

You and me could write a bad romance.

*I want your love and all that comes with it. We're so screwed up our love could be a romance novel

Lyrics: I want your psycho, your vertigo stick.

Want you in my room, baby when you're sick.

I want your love

*I want all your craziness. And I want your dick even though it gets me dizzy in the head. I want to be captain save-a-hoe because you just arent right in the head right now. But I can fix it because I want you!

Lyrics: Je Veux ton amour

*I want your love

Lyrics Et je veux ta revanche

* I want your revenge

UGH. It's almost sickening how amazing this bish is. Everybody that's ever been in love, lust, or felt any sort of romantic emotion with anybody can relate to her lyrics. I have no confessions to offer up today. But I do have pictures of Lady Gaga that remind me every day that "fitting it" is definitely Standing out!

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

LeTs TalK abOut SEX

"Sex boggles your brain. I'll keep my sanity thank you!" - @ohmyGAUDY

Lovelies,
The Post for today is all about S.E.X. What was once considered taboo, sex is now popping up everywhere from television to film to radio and in homes across America. It seems that everything that you'd ever want to know about sex you can learn just by watching some of today's music videos (I.E "Invented Sex" Pictured above) For us grown folks, we had that dreaded birds and the bees talk when we were younger. You know the speech. "When a man and a woman really love each other (WHEN THEY'RE MARRIED) They decide to express that love for one another (WHILE THEY'RE MARRIED) blah blah blah. At some point or another, you make the decision to lose your virginity and that ladies and gentleman is when you no longer are a child. What my parents never mentioned, was that besides the physical consequences of sex (possible pregnancy, and disease) there are also huge emotional ties.
Um. DUH
Ok, so it's pretty obvious right?
Wrong!
The truth is, while some are good at separating sex from feelings, there are only a select few that do that and pull it off successfully.
When you get to the fork in the road in a courtship where you two have to decide whether to just be "friends" or take things further, sex can determine whether it's a smooth path, or a bumpy road.
When we have sex, we essentially are receiving (in whatever form of your choosing), sharing or giving (in whatever form of your choosing) and exchanging. You're also building an invisible bond. Even if the two people decide amicably that they will just remain friends, it will never be as it was before you two hit the sack. But at least there are friendly feelings.
Now...
If the separation was not so lovely, then run for cover. For most woman, (quality woman) sex is the finalizing factor. We (quality woman) rarely sleep with someone that we wouldn't consider dating. Drunken wham bam thank you ma'ams are not included in this discussion. I'm talking about someone that you chat with on the phone, start to date, smile when they text you, go through the motions with. A quality woman knows the consequences and repercussions of taking it to the next level, therefore we are choosy in who gets the nookie. Men, consider yourselves the best of the best, because trust, there isn't a day that goes by that a woman is not solicited for sex. We can literally get it from anywhere but you are the chosen ones. When we finally decide to let you into our private intimate world, and if you really get down with the get down, there isn't anything that a (quality woman) wont do for you. We would literally give you the world if we could.
But scorn us, and that's when the war paint comes out. The other polar side to that woman can come out and make you want to crawl back into your mothers womb and never return. Even a (quality woman) who has been scorned after sex may end up catching a case. Sometimes it really is that deep. It seems now a days because sex is constantly in our faces nobody values or even cares about the affects of intimacy until it's too late.

Today's Confessions:

• I confess that I've taken the necessary steps, and now a lot of big things are happenin for ya girl. I'm very excited and closer than ever to my dream!!
• I confess that it is absolutely RIDICULOUS how obsessed I am with Lady Gaga. Seriously I drool over that bish.
• I confess that I too have fallen for the oke doke. And felt like I was damn near losing my mind because I was so angry.
• I confess that the sex was goooood. :-( :-/ :-)

Yes Lovelies. Sex can be a stress reliever, a time passer, and just an all around great time. Whether it's a consensual 1 night stand, the first time with a new boo, or the 100th time with the long term boyfriend. But remember, everything in your body is essentially connected and controlled by the brain and the heart. Sex may feel great in the heat of the moment, but always think about how your heart will feel later on.

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

"Some people are settling down, some people are settling, and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies" -Carrie Bradshaw

Hello Lovelies!

That's one of my favorite quotes from Sex and the City. And why?? Because too many times we decide to take the easy way out of situations and settle. And by we please believe I mean myself included..
Now...
I'm not just talking about love lives either. Any situation whether it be with a job, or friends sometimes we feel like it's just a lot easier to settle for a sure thing.

But

Settling is kind of like putting a band-aid over a bullet wound; a temporary fix. When you settle in a relationship sense, it's bound to have disastrous results.
But

It's so easy to look for that safety net. The act of love is like one big circus act. Lets say you're the flying trapeze artist. You're swinging and swaying and putting on a hell of a show. But then that time comes where your partner is waiting for you to finish at the platform. You have to choose whether to trust and grab there hands and finish your performance off strong, or to let go and allow the safety net to catch you. It can be scary not knowing if your partner will be there for you, to catch you and hold on to you. And while your swinging and wondering whether or not your going to be caught, that safety net starts lookin real good. But there are certain things that must be considered before you make the decision.

Like

If you do decide to fall, sure you'll be nice and safe but your performance would be half ass. You took the easy way out. Besides everybody else criticizing such a bootleg performance, that doesn't compare to YOU feeling like you've failed.

Everybody has that 1 person that they know they can always go back to whenever they feel lonely and that's always ready to be in a relationship with you. We keep those on reserve just for rainy days. It's not that this person is a bad person per say, they just aren't your first choice. You're first choice is the person standing at the platform that may or may not catch you. Settling for your safety net always seems like the safest and easiest choice but after awhile feelings of resentment may arise and what was once deemed "safe" can turn into annoying. Soon there are arguments, and feelings of bitterness and unhappiness and suddenly your wishing you would have just taken the leap.

Todays Confessions:

• I confess that I'm sick because I've been waltzing around Chicago in barely anything
• I confess that my love life has become something of a circus
• I confess that I punked out and fell into my safety net :-/

Well lovelies, nobody said love was easy because it isn't. Like I said before it has the potential to be like a 3 ring circus. But it's up to you to decide whether you'll continue being an act, or take center stage as the ring leader. Love you all :-)

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

You CaN get with ThiS, or YoU can Get with ThaT

**Wait, Wait!! I wasn't ready :-) **


Hello lovelies!

It's been some time I know. I've definitely missed the input..
In sweet home Chicago, we've been blessed with snow, frigid temperatures, and beloved black ice. Cars have slid on freshly snowed streets, bumping and side swiping other cars, and people have slipped and fell in the most embarrassing of fashions while trying to cross the slush filled streets. The most deadly of the Chicago Winter is The Hawk. Affectionately named so by the good people of Chicago, The Hawk or Windy (refer to Kanye West's "Homecoming") has made even the strongest of men weak at the knees. Many tears have fallen and many lives have been treated by the affects of The Hawk. But good ol Windy not only blows wintry wind, but also it seems, people.

Now... awhile ago, I made a promise to a certain best friend that I would no longer continue to allow people to walk in and out of my life. That if they weren't standing on the front lines with me now, then I didn't want to have anything to do with them. I'm a firm believer in the saying: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me"

But the fact of the matter is, that's not always easy. It Especially depends on how deep your feelings are for this particular someone. Now we all know this does not just apply to male/female relationships, but also friendships. I KNOW some of yall have that one "friend" that keeps receiving the low key *side eye* from you, but you love them to death and always over look the things about them that continue to blow you. It can be tiring and mentally and emotionally draining forgiving, forgetting, moving on, and then getting let down again.

So what do you do? Well, you have two options.. You entertain what the person has to say and forgive, and move on with the hopes that things get better and change, or you can choose to remove this person from your life completely. The choice is always there, it's just what we choose to do with the information.

Today's Confessions

• I confess that sometimes I fall victim to the "dryer" affect
• I confess that somebody will stay, and somebody will go
• I confess that a dress with feathers may not have been the best way to go lol :-)

So how do you know who to let back in and who to keep out? Make your list and check it twice honey. But always know there's the possibility of things biting you in the ass. You never know what will happen. But sometimes, not knowing is half the fun :-)

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

But TWITTER said...

This.. Is part 2

Hello again Lovelies,
I know what your thinking.. This bish JUST posted a blog. I'm aware of that. But there is a story that goes along with the EX blog. This post is dedicated to........

INTERNET BEEF!!!

We've all had it.. Some people may be involving themselves in some sort of internet beef now. No matter what the reason, internet beef is wack BOOTZ!.

Let's explore...
Now a days, the nosiest of nosies can check in and know all about your personal business because of what you choose to post up on the net. At one time, everybody had a Black Planet page. Then on to the more evolved Myspace, up to Facebook, and now Twitter. At one time you had to be a college student with a valid college email address in order to sign up for Facebook. Now everybody's grandma, mama, and Bible study teacher has a Facebook. Nobody really bothers with Myspace anymore, and dont even think about coming at someone on a Black Planet page. Twitter is one of the best and worst internet creations in years. If gives fun, energetic, and smart individuales the means to constantly update whats going on in there minds, lives, and hearts in a creative way. BUT. It also gives a chance for the ignorant to spread there stupidity at a rapid rate.
Twitter beef. Is. Wack!
Have I said that enough times? Anyway, my EX decides to check in on my life via Twitter and this here blog. Which is fine and dandy, but when you search for things, you find them. In the words of Adam Lambert, I am not a babysitter. I refuse to say things that everybody will like. Before a Bish knew it, the EX was at my head via a Subliminal Tweet.
WTF!
The always obvious, but hardly funny subliminal tweet is always the jumping off point for an official twitter beef. So what's a person to do?
Well.... You can take the high road and chose to ignore such foolishness. BUT that has the potential for making you feel tried and that's NEVER a good feeling.
Or.. you can continue with the circus and sling your own nameless mud (like I did).... (I HATE feeling tried).... (Dont JUDGE me..) I'll admit lovelies.. I got involved and began subliminally tweeting. It wasnt until his new girlfriend jumped in and called me every type of Bitch in the book that I realized, I was arguing with FOOLS... And what's worse, people looking in on my tweets, were talking about how foolish I looked.. I had to stop. Blocks were made, BBM pins were deleted and number's were removed. It may seem fun to be able to say what you feel and not attatch a name but in the end, you wind up looking silly, and extra MADD

More of Today's Confessions:

• I confess that I felt so foolish with those subliminal messages
• I confess that it's just not worth a second thought
• I confess that I need to go back to '07 ♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥ mentality

Yes darlings.. Interenet beef is so desperate looking. And Tweet Beef...? Even worse. It may look fun to air out somebody's business without attatching a name, but remember. Subliminal messages are a way of throwing rocks and hiding your hands. So not the 2010 move.

On to the N"ex"T One

Bienvenidos Lovelies!

As I sit here and sip my hot chocolate and scarf down my leftover Giordano's pizza, I reflected upon last week and all the drama that surrounded my Twitter life.

No Wait...
That sounds soooo lame.. I know. It's lame to me too.
I had EX boyfriend drama (cue scary music). Was I really naive enough to think that just because I turned a year older the people in my life would behave accordingly?
Let me take it back a few weeks. So you can get the idea of today's blog..
I've been casually dating other people since said EX.. But every new guy that would come along, would spark thoughts about the EX. While discussing this with the Bestie and fellow fashionista, she posed a question that made me take a hard look at all my past relationships and "B.U.D.D.Y's"..

What is it about a New boo, that makes you think about the Old one?

Soo annoying right? We've all been there... Things could be going more than great with a new potential boyfriend or girlfriend. But when you least expect it, your EX can cross your mind and invade your thoughts. It's irritating, and annoying, and just inconvenient.
So what do you do?
Well.. Depends on what these thoughts are. If you find yourself excessively thinking about your EX and there is a potential for reconciliation, then jump into it and get your man/woman back. Putting yourself out there is scary, but coulda woulda shoulda's are SO 2000 and LATE! But if you think back on your EX and it's nothing but arguments, tears, and heartbreak (like in my case ::cough::) the only thing you can really do, is remind yourself why it is that you broke up in the first place. Thinking about all the negatives about a situation, while may be depressing, can help with the those "missing you" feelings and get you focused and thankful for what you have, or whats to come in the future.

Today's Confessions:

• I confess that I really really missed my ex..
• I confess that Now I realize, I don't miss my ex
• I confess that I refuse to continue running in circles

But kiddies, I didn't just come to that conclusion, trust me. It took days of soul searching, and a particular Twitter beef to realize that I'm better off without them problems. And if in case your on the road to recovery and find yourself slipping, just remember there's ALWAYS a reason why ex's should stay ex's.

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days...

Hi Lovelies....

Have you seen the movie How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days?

When the movie came out in 2003, me and my Bestfriend saw it not once but 2 times (being thirsty) lol.. When I first saw it, I thought it was just a baseless comedy about 2 people that played games up until the end of the movie..

She (Andie Anderson, *played by Kate Hudson*) was a writer for a professional woman's magazine. And He (Benjamin Barry *played by Mat McConaughey*) Is an advertising executive nortorious around the office for being a ladies man. When one of Andie's friends goes through yet another devestating breakup, Andie decides to write an article on the things that woman do wrong. Her assignment is to find a new guy, wheel him in, then flip the switch on him and do all the classic things that women do wrong in a relationship. At the same time, in order to score a big account, Ben is dared to find a woman and make her fall in love with him in 10 days.. Long story short, they both eventually end up finding out that they are playing one another and that they really are in love with each other. And of course, they live happily ever after.

Now Wait Bish.....

I can guarantee you this almost NEVER happens in real life..

Not the playing games part, but the getting over it after you've done the playing or been played. We as humans play this game called life on an every day basis. There are so many different games to play when it comes to relationships. But are they all bad?

Lets explore shall we?

1) The "Defensive" Game- These are games we play with our significant others in order to protect our hearts from future heartbreak. Playing level: Possible Danger

2) The "Childish" Game- These are games that young people, or young minded people like to play. The break up every 3 days, calling private, spreading rumors, make you jealous kind of games. Playing level: Dangerous

3) The "Power Struggle" Game- These are games that you play when you want to have full control over relationships. I.E.. Constantly checking up, or checking in. Monitering outfits, friends, and family. Not only are these signes of abuse, there also mind games.

Speaking of which..

4) The "mind" Games- What can be thought of as the worst of the games to play with someone. Mind games are what we all are guilty of playing at some point or another. Those on the receiving end of a mind game have the potential to be left hurt, confused, angry, souless, and damaged. Playing Level: Very Dangerous

The Defensive game, isnt so much a bad thing, because everybody has been hurt at one point or another and you definatly dont want to feel that way again. But it also has the potential for danger because in your quest for protecting yourself, you could end up hurting someone that really loves you. The Childish game is just that. Childish. Nobody wants to put up with somebody who calls there phone private, and low key stalks them just because there shits not together. The Power game again has the potential to be lethal. I'm in no way saying that men are the only 1's who struggle to hold and maintain power in a relationship, because we as women do it too.. Just needed to throw that out there. Mind games just hurt. Period. I dunno about you all, but my heart and head battle each other on an every day basis. It sucks to know that while you chose your heart over your head, your head knew it was being toyed with.. And when you realize you've been played with, your mind WONT let you forget. SMH...

Todays Confessions:

1) I Confess thatI Drank waaaay to much this weekend :-(

2) I Confess that I was playing the defensive game, and ended up losing somebody beyond special to me. :-(

3) I confess that I fugged up.

Dont play games lovelies.. It's NEVER worth it. Because losing absolutely sucks!

♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥