"Pull my hair, Spank me, and call me a bitch because I'm SO sorry"!- Vic
My sister, (who's just as fabulous in her own right) recently accompanied me on 1 of my shopping excursions.. She needed to vent because she had "the worst day of school in her life" Her best friend was pissing her off and throwing her under the bus for a guy. Don't act surprised. This happens all the time. As I picked up a pair studded aviator glasses, I tried to think of the best advice I could give to her about friendship. Unfortunately, I wasn't exactly batting 1000 in this field, so I felt pretty stupid about suggesting what she should do. I did explain to her, that her friend, was not a friend at all, but was in fact a frenemy. What's a frenemy? Well here's the definition:
Frenemy (alternately spelled "frienemy") is a portmanteau of "friend" and "enemy" which can refer to either an enemy disguised as a friend or to a partner who is simultaneously a competitor and rival
Still don't understand? Check out this HILARIOUS video from the web series Frenemies..
(sorry the vid is so big)
So there you have it. A frenemy is a lot worse than an enemy because all good intentions are out the window. They would rather aid and watch you fall or fail with a big smile on their face then to see you succeed. They run and talk about you behind your back, but smile in your face. They are jealous of everything you do, or speak of. They are unsupportive, and they are sneaky.The most unfabulous thing about a frenemy, is that you usually don't realize that's what they are, until they know all your business and it's written in permanent marker on a bathroom wall.. Frenemies also have a hard time taking responsibility for the demise of a good friendship. If their jealous, they call it hating. It's just TOO much for adults to go through which is why the Frenemy phase that most girls go through ends either in or after college age. After explaining all this to her, she of course was still irritated. I let her know that as annoying as it is, it will pass depending on how she handles the toxic frenemy. Now, most of the people I called friends have gone. And I cant say that I'm a perfect friend because nobody is. But I am a DAMN good friend. I'm very easy to get a long with and for the most part, i'm very lax about a lot of things. Normally when a friend has a problem with me, it's them. And if we stop talking, my absence is felt. When people think you have a certain weakness, they will use it to your advantage. (How wack!) Frenemies have the best camouflage, but there are ways of spotting said "friend"
A Frenemy will....
* Listen to your every word then repeat it (often times incorrectly) to anyone who will listen.
* Try to compete with you in EVERYTHING you do
* Talk about you subliminally and try to hide their hands at the end
* Sabotage, ruin, and try to take you over
A REAL Friend..
* Supports however she can. No matter what she has to do. Her last dollar, is now your dollar. Even though she may be having a horrible day, she still takes time out to listen to you. She's at every game or event if you're into sports, or at every concert if you play music.
* NEVER and I repeat, NEVER subliminally talks about you. She may talk about others less important. But never airs her feelings about you, or your business subliminally, whether it's via Facebook Status, or tweet. And if she DOES have a problem, she comes to you and tells you so that you two may go forward and move on
* Flips out on those she thinks are your frenemies and has no qualms about hurting their feelings
* Doesn't compete or even think of her friend as competition. Real friends view themselves as equals and all those other bitches out their are your competition. Together
I mean really, friendships are not suppose to be difficult. Anytime a friendship seems exhausting, it may be time for some re-evaluations. I don't have all the answers, and I don't do everything right. But I'm confident that little sis will make the right decisions when it comes to who she chooses to share her fabness with.
My Confessions *I confess that I still REALLY like him *I confess that my side eye has been REAL strong lately *I confess that I Cannot WAIT to go to Miami
Stay away from those frenemies kids. Because the saying is "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" NOT the other way around
(My Desk at work.. Pink bag, Aviator shades, and a Charm bracelet, No work though lol) (Henna!!)
(It's true.. I like Nerds)
(Boredom at it's finest)
(Who Doesnt LOVE an obnoxious church hat? *smiles*)
(Aren't these fab?)
Greets and Salutations
Ok... I know it's been.. Forever! And honestly, there are no excuses.. No writers block.. no nothing.. Well I HAVE been working harder then the Heels on Oprah's Louboutin's.. (I gotta support my shopping habit) But still, no excuses. What I CAN say, is that I'm here, and I have much to say! :o)
So how have all you been? Me? Well... Lemme tell you..
My social life had seriously taken a beating over the last several weeks.. I was tested, and pushed in ways that I didnt even see coming.. I lost a few people along the way, and gained even more. And along with the additions and subtractions in my life came lessons that I didnt fully apreciate until I sat down and started typing this blog. For one, I learned I need to be more cautious about who I call my "friend" (and I WILL be exploring the meaning and actions of friendships at a later time). I'm an excellent friend I like to think. I try to treat people that I consider my friends, the same way that I want to be treated.. But some people get a little blind sided and side tracked.. If their worth it, help them back on the straight and narrow friendship yellow brick road. If not.. well... let them stumble around the forest on their own. *Kanye Shrug*
As Far as "relationships" with the opposite sex.. They havent changed. And. I'm not sure if thats a good or bad thing.. *Makes ugly face*
My Clothes.. Are still fabulous lol (Had to throw that in)
So lemme tell you the dealio on what's to come for Confessions of a Fashionista.. Ready for my news?????? I BOUGHT A DOMAIN NAME!!!! Yes, I am an official Dot.Com My new URL is www.Kishafashionista.com but it's NOT RUNNING YET! In addtion to a brand new space, I'm also doin a brand new lay out. I've been in email correspondance with a few Web designers that would like to help me get my vision off the ground. The first post on the brand new blog is going to be INSANE!! I cant wait to fully share my views on clothes, sex, boys, girls, shoes, purses, music etc in the fun, fabulous and edgy way that I've always envisioned. *pants* I wont give away too many secrets (that would spoil the surprise) but I will say it will be amaze-balls!
Stay tuned for my Blackberry Picture Confessions Love you all!
I'm going to take the time to really vent about some things. I noticed A lot of these more "established" bloggers have really been taking shots at those of us who choose not to pay to remove blogspot from our names. So, to that I say, so the FAUK what.. I mean really. It's not like I don't have the money to do it (because trust me I do) And really I don't have a reason for not having it done. But I will by the summer.
Secondly: Can somebody please tell me what's up with guys and the whole transference of emotion bull crap? There is this one guy that loves to blame other people for his short comings and screw ups. I'm not gonna lie, there has been a few times where I've fallen victim to the foolishness.. But uhhh not gone happen. I've seen Two Can Play That Game... I peep what's going on..
Next: Despite the name of my blog containing fashion, this is not some vapid valley girl blog. I cant tell you how many times people have said, "Oh I thought this was just a fashion blog" And these are people that I'm cool with. Which lets me know, they aren't really reading what I have to say. Well Whatever, because I see many people are actually taking notice to my posts. So to those that are, thanks so much :-) And I'll continue doing these for us!
Now, onto better things. I will be going back to non fashion related blogs after the spring '10 trends series is over with. I've also added a guest blogger section. I'm excited about this because I know many intelligent people that have so many thoughts and ideas that I believe other people should read about. But don't worry, fashion will be very prominent in the blog. The confessions will be rolling back in soon. *Promise*
So.. I'm in love guys and dolls.. I mean, I was always in love. It just took me a couple of months to really come to terms with it... But ohhh how I keep imagining my Summer single and absolutely fabulous.. We shall see I suppose.
Remember how I said I've started up knitting/crocheting? I'm not half bad at it.. So, I think I want to start sharing some of my pieces. What do you guys think?
Lastly, I would really love if you guys would comment after a post. Whether it's on the actual post, constructive criticism, or just letting me know you like what I have to say. I would really appreciate it :-)
Ok, So I'm pretty much dunzo. Not much of a vent.. Just things that I needed to speak on. I'm so happy with everybody that actually reads what I have to say, so I always feel like I have to update you on what's going on in my life. You guys are like the bff's I cant see. Until next time
"I want to have more sex, travel more, drink more wine, and love life" -Zoe Saldana
Girl.. Don't we ALL want that... ::sighs::
Hello all,
Okay so can I just say that Zoe Saldana is quickly becoming my favorite "It" girl.. I loved her in Crossroads (Shut the hell up) Star Trek and most recently, box office smash Avatar. She reportedly has a few stylists, but her main bish is Rachel Zoe. (Great job Rach..) Anywhocontinuing with the Spring trends, we come to my second favorite part of an ensemble....
PURSES!!!!
Check out these sinfully gorgeous purses and notice the common factor with all of them.
Alexander McQueen
Prada
ProenzaSchouler
Jimmy Choo
Stella McCartney
Oscar De La Renta
So.. Isn't that Alexander McQueen absolutely delish.. I swear. And the Stella McCartney is also a favorite.. Okay kiddies... So what's the trend.. Give up? Littleis BIG! So I know some of you *Including myself* swear by purses bigger than our heads, but the trend for the summer is smaller purses and clutches. Idk WHAT the expect me to do with those tiny purses, but I'm sure I'll manage ;-)
Love you all!
♥ Kisha_Fashionista ♥
(Photo Credit:Theybf.com, Instyle.com
Zoe's look: Louis Vuitton Spring '10 fuschia and black bubble cocktail dress) *Fab*
"I want to have more sex, travel more, drink more wine, and love life" -Zoe Saldana
Alexander McQueen
Prada
Proenza Schouler
Jimmy Choo
Stella McCartney
Oscar De La Renta